• Jorge Espinoza

THEM FIGHTING WORDS

Updated: Nov 9, 2018




Hello reader, back again with some encouraging news, and some thoughts. Below is a very interesting story that I heard a few years back.



There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.

The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.


The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound is still there." The little boy then understood how powerful his words were. He looked up at his father and said "I hope you can forgive me father for the holes I put in you." "Of course I can," said the father.



I began to ponder the idea of this story and how our words carry heavy weight even when we think they don’t. Recently I was speaking to an individual about life, and relationships. This individual expressed the need to correct someone, but not in a way that was constructive but would rather be a venting session.


I told this individual that our words have to be well calculated. Words have power, and once they leave our mouth are like the firearm that is fired, which has no control and can be used for good or evil.


We are often taught the riddle “sticks and stones”, but if we are honest with each other it is true that words can affect a person. In the bible proverbs provides some insight:

Prov 18:21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.

The word of God tells us there is power in the tongue to speak life or death. As Christians we will learn our words have to be calibrated well. That when they leave our mouth they are not to be directed at someone to bring damage but rather life.


WELL I LIKE TO SPEAK MY MIND!!! I get it. However much of that can be rooted in PRIDE. We feel we need to be heard, defended. Jesus in the bible when he is being charged with a crime never defends himself, and he certainly did not TELL IT HOW IT IS. Rather his words were well calculated. Matthew 26:63 Jesus remained quiet…………In other words have nothing good to say do not say anything, BING BING BING REVELATION!!


Sometimes our damaging words can be towards ourselves. Our looks, failures, shortcomings, etc. This opens us up for a cocktail of demonic activity. We are of the belief that only God knows the mind (1 kings 8:39). Satan can influence the mind(usually through others, or events), but never read it. This is why we need to not give him or his hosts of demons fuel to attack. I have seen people bring curses on themselves and also sickness through this. An example:


In 1 kings 19 we read the story of Elijah, as he was confronted by Jezebels WORDS threatening him with death (not physical just words). Elijah then has some powerful words, he says “It is enough! Now, Lord, take my life, for I am no better than my fathers!” Afterwards we see Elijah spiral into a state of depression, and we also began to see a spiritual death that was eventually saved by God’s mercies and grace. All of this because of WORDS.


The good news is we can learn a new language. A language of power and, positive thinking in Jesus. Remember some people will have to learn not to be so negative (some are so negative they even discourage satan….just kidding...kind of...not really). Mark 11 Jesus spoke on the issue of faith and using our words. Words can be used for faith, encouragement, diffusing arguments and much more. One of the famous phrases that has helped me, when in arguments is , “can we still be friends?”. I mention that because only unreasonable, difficult people would say "no". It is the words that can start a fire or cool one.


We also have to be careful of who we speak to and how we speak to them. Families have been destroyed because of words. Words that are spoken, are first in the heart. Jesus said out of the heart the mouth speaks. Hurting people hurt others. Sadly sometimes they are the closest people to us, our family.


Proverbs 16:24

Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.

Maybe in times you have spoken evil words, or maybe someone has spoken evil words to you. I want to tell you God can forgive you of words you have spoken. God can also wipe away words spoken to you. I encourage you to pray this to God.



Jesus, I come to you. I ask that you forgive me of negative words I have spoken to myself, and to others. Please forgive me. Jesus I forgive those who spoke evil to me and of me. From this day forward I will do my best to watch what I say. I put my trust in you Jesus, I believe that you died on a cross for my sins, for that I thank you. In Jesus name amen.

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